As I understand the upper limit problem, it is those opportunities when we are successful but we sabotage our self because we do not believe we are deserving to have that much success. It could be events earlier in life that set in motion these self-sabotaging actions. Hendricks provided examples of these different types of actions. As he described these different situations I could see how they play out in my own life. I recognize I followed many of my successes with something stupid that diminished my success.
Two steps forward and one step back. These books point out your inner voice can hold you back from success. You have to change your mindset to generate success while at the same time, control your inner voice from self-sabotaging actions. Hendricks provided strategies for identifying when self-sabotaging behavior is taking place.
He also shared tactics for mitigating or eliminating the self-sabotaging actions. In The Big Leap , Hendricks shared four barriers that are holding us back.
These barriers resonated with me. The first barrier is feeling like we are flawed. That something is inherently wrong with us. The second barrier is disloyalty and abandonment. There were a number of themes in this book that resonated with me and I thoroughly enjoyed it. This book is all about understanding limiting beliefs, discovering from where they are derived, and learning how to bust through your self-imposed upper limit to realize your full potential. We learn about the four hidden barriers that many of us impose on ourselves that may limit us. It may be one particular item that's limiting us or a combination of a couple.
The hidden barriers are as follows: Many times, it's deep-rooted from our early years and we may not even recognize that we have these hidden beliefs. The author speaks of working in different "zones. The book is filled with all kinds of great suggestions for finding your way past your upper limit and finding your way into the Zone of Genius. The biggest takeaway for me was the Ultimate Success Mantra. This is something you say to yourself when you meditate. It's something you say aloud to yourself. It's something you program into your neural pathways so you never forget and I happen to like it word for word.
The Ultimate Success Mantra is, "I expand in abundance, success, and love every day and I inspire others around me to do the same. It garners a 4. I actually gave it a 5-star rating and I'm inspired to check out more by Gay Hendricks. Just in the course of reading the first few pages I felt like I was rearranging my perception of my self, of life, and of what I'm capable of creating and experiencing with the time I have on this planet. This is some super valuable wisdom distilled into a short, engaging, and encouraging read.
Gay Hendricks is an amazing man who has been intimately involved with the success of many many amazing people.
Seriously, don't wait, give yourself the gift of a clearing understanding of who you are and how you can take your life to the next level. I read this book upon recommendation after studying the topic of success during the past year. I felt the first pages read a bit slowly however, it significantly picked up from there, and I flew through the second half of the book. I had never heard of the Einstein Approach to time, which rocked my world as I read it.
I had to reread parts of it out loud to those around me, it was such a paradigm shift for me. If you are looking for ways to improve yourself, and you are ready to take full responsibility for yourself, then this book should quickly move up your list of top favorites in the arena of self help. I am so grateful this book has come into my life and plan to reread it annually to ensure I incorporate all of the concepts within.
Kindle Edition Verified Purchase. You know, it's rare, when you're a colossal nerd who reads literally everything you can get your hands on, to find a book that is somewhat lifechanging. It's not that its well written - writing quality is about average, author presence average, etc. I find myself referencing it mentally at the most miserable of moments It has been life changing to me - on content alone.
And I've sent copies to most of my extended family over the past couple of years too. May have something for you too. I am not a person who is interested in a lot of psycho babble nor do I read may self-help books, but this book has been life changing in the way I view myself. As I read each chapter, I thought, "Wow, that's me! People who should have been encouraging and supporting my successes did the most damage to me by undermining my success. This book has inspired me to live beyond my Zone of Excellence into my Zone of Genius. I am not quite there yet, but I am working on it.
I texted all of my grown children to recommend they read this. See all reviews. See all customer images. Most recent customer reviews. Published 4 days ago.
Published 6 days ago. Published 8 days ago. Published 11 days ago. Published 22 days ago. Two people may be locked in an angry conflict for weeks. Where do I feel out of integrity with myself? What is keeping me from feeling complete and whole? What important feelings am I not letting into my awareness? Where in my life am I not telling the full truth? Where in my life have I not kept my promises? These specific actions will keep you on track and on the fast track to living in your Zone of Genius. Make a commitment to keeping an attitude of wonder and play while learning about your Upper Limit behaviors.
Say this sentence in your mind as often as you like. You can learn a lot more with a spirit of wonder and enjoyment than you can with an attitude of criticism. Make a list of your Upper Limit behaviors.
Here are some of the most common ones: Worrying Blame and criticism Getting sick or hurt Squabbling Hiding significant feelings Not keeping agreements Not speaking significant truths to the relevant people. Brushing off compliments is a good example of deflecting When you notice yourself doing one of the things on your Upper Limit list, such as worrying, or failing to communicate some truth, shift your attention to the real issue: Consciously let yourself make more room in your awareness for abundance, love, and success.
Use the resources of your whole being, not just your mind. For example, feel more love in your chest and heart area. Savor the body feeling, as well as the mental satisfaction, of success and abundance. Embrace a new story that tells about your adventures in your Zone of Genius. Find a new mythology, or make up one of your own, that shows you enjoying your life in the full radiance of your expressed potential. Better to keep the genie in the bottle and coast along in the Zone of Excellence.
Just notice the voices and feel the fears. Where would they go, anyway? Then get busy learning to live in your Zone of Genius. Close your eyes, and rest for a minute or so until your system settles down. Once every fifteen to twenty seconds, whisper the USM softly to yourself; say the words quietly in your mind, like a faint thought.
It will go like this: Whisper the USM softly to yourself. It takes me five to seven seconds to do this. Pause and rest with an open mind for ten to fifteen seconds. This is about the time it takes for two slow, easy breaths. Whisper the USM softly to yourself again. Continue like this for five to ten minutes. The saving move in that moment is to renew your commitment. View all 8 comments. Jul 25, Arlene rated it really liked it. About a decade ago, a friend of mine landed an interview for his dream job.
He had worked hard to reach that point in his career, and he was thrilled and nervous about the upcoming appointment. The day of the interview, he had a few drinks and showed up drunk. Gay Hendricks would say my friend had an Upper Limit Problem. Or how about a typical family gathering where everyone is laughing and having a great time until an offhand comment from a well-meaning relative sets off a firestorm of over-react About a decade ago, a friend of mine landed an interview for his dream job.
Or how about a typical family gathering where everyone is laughing and having a great time until an offhand comment from a well-meaning relative sets off a firestorm of over-reaction, quarrels and hurt feelings. Gay Hendricks would say someone in the family has an Upper Limit Problem. According to Hendricks, we subconsciously set upper limits for ourselves. We believe that things can only be so good, and then only for so long.
When circumstances get too good for too long, we start to believe that we don't deserve them, or they won't last, so we subconsciously upset our own apple carts. Most readers will be able to look back through this filter on at least one event in their lives and see it with new eyes. Many readers will be able to recognize a life-long pattern of self-sabotage.
Hendricks delves into the reasons why people create artificial ceilings for themselves and some of the methods used to make sure the ceilings don't get breached. I experienced many "Ah ha! About arguments, Hendricks writes: Arguments are caused by two people or two countries racing to occupy the victim position in the relationship. Person A claims the victim position "Why are you doing this to me?
In other words, person B has to agree that he or she is the persecutor. Therein lies the problem. It's almost impossible to get the other guy to agree that it's his fault. In other words, each person must present and escalating series of "proofs" that he or she is the real victim. Or, how about this profound statement: You're where time comes from. In one small book, Hendricks can't solve all of everyone's life problems, but he gives us tools to use when reviewing life circumstances. We can ask, "Was that setback arbitrary, like an unexpected hail storm?
Or was it set in motion by an Upper Limit Problem? Hendricks just might prevent some disrupted family gatherings. The Big Leap prompts readers to make mindful life choices, build loving and appreciative relationships, while relaxing into Einstein time. Sounds good to me. If you don't think so, ask yourself this: Do I have an Upper Limit Problem? Feb 15, Mary Mulliken rated it it was ok. This book was annoying. The author is arrogant and, while he has some good ideas, doesn't explain them in enough detail for them to be very helpful.
It seemed like this book was written in a couple of days and not edited. This kind of climbing seems very dated to me, and therefore, This book was annoying. This kind of climbing seems very dated to me, and therefore, so does the book. View all 5 comments. Love the ideas in this book. Thoughtful and thought provoking. I am sometimes hindered by the language though. The metaphors and terminology are a bit too sports, big business or California life coach oriented for me to be able to relate the "zone of genius" and "keys to liberation" for example.
But if you forget those verbal shortcuts the concepts themselves are both simple and powerful. So in the spirit of "take what works and leave the rest" the lessons in this book can really help you bre Love the ideas in this book. So in the spirit of "take what works and leave the rest" the lessons in this book can really help you break through the "barriers to your success" and help you become the best version of yourself.
And this I think is it's gift. Nov 25, Donovan rated it really liked it. This book was recommended to me by my coach Judymay when I was facing challenges in where is the next level for me. I know now why she chose it. The book is an easy read yet it packs a punch if you do the exercises and play full out.
The foundation of the book is the fact that we are all born to win, but when we get a feel for winning, we back down and go back to our comfort zone. Hendricks also offers so ideas of how we can operate in our genius zone more often. On the whole I Mind boggling read! On the whole I enjoyed the book and have recommended it to a few clients as well as some fellow coaches. As a result of working through it several times, I have found the clarity I need to launch the next phase of my business.
If you just want a quick read and not do the exercises, this book is probably not for you. If you're will to be open to a slightly different concept and interact with the questions, give it a go!! You may find the genius in you that is waiting to surface!! Jul 07, Ted rated it did not like it. This is a book that has some truth, some helpful suggestions for how to live life. However, they are few and far between.
Most of the book is filler, stories of the author's accomplishments, famous people he has helped, or stuff he has acquired. I would not recommend reading this book. Sometimes, you pick up a book and just can't put it down. Something grabs you right away and pulls you along. It's like the author is speaking directly to you. That was the case with this one. There were a number of themes in this book that resonated with me and I thoroughly enjoyed it.
This book is all about understanding limiting beliefs, discovering from where they are derived, and learning how to bust through your self-imposed upper limit to realize your full potential. We learn about the four Sometimes, you pick up a book and just can't put it down. We learn about the four hidden barriers that many of us impose on ourselves that may limit us. It may be one particular item that's limiting us or a combination of a couple. The hidden barriers are as follows: Many times, it's deep-rooted from our early years and we may not even recognize that we have these hidden beliefs.
The author speaks of working in different "zones. The book is filled with all kinds of great suggestions for finding your way past your upper limit and finding your way into the Zone of Genius. The biggest takeaway for me was the Ultimate Success Mantra. This is something you say to yourself when you meditate.
It's something you say aloud to yourself. It's something you program into your neural pathways so you never forget and I happen to like it word for word. The Ultimate Success Mantra is, "I expand in abundance, success, and love every day and I inspire others around me to do the same. It garners a 4. I actually gave it a 5-star rating and I'm inspired to check out more by Gay Hendricks.
Jul 08, Mark rated it really liked it. While I agree with many reviews here that the tone can be off-putting, I thought this was an excellent set of ideas and discussion points. There's a lot in this book that is directly applicable in my life, and it's a book I think I'll download as well I think this is the only time I have found myself wishing I could talk to the author in a one-on-one session. For heaven's sake, just rip the ch While I agree with many reviews here that the tone can be off-putting, I thought this was an excellent set of ideas and discussion points.
For heaven's sake, just rip the chapter out as soon as you get the book. Not only is it so vague as to be useless, he concludes with an anecdote so off-putting I really started to question if this was a guy I wanted to listen to. However, I don't need to idolize the guy to agree he makes excellent points. It's easy enough to take what works for me and leave the rest behind. Sep 02, Lori Anderson rated it really liked it Shelves: A friend gave me this book as a gift because she knows I am stuck in a creative and business rut which for me is one and the same thing and was certain it would help me.
Now, I am not the self-help book sort. I'll be completely up front about that. But I admire and love this friend, so I read it in one sitting. Essentially, the book helps you learn how to jump from mediocrity to excellence. To do that, you have to learn to conquer the fear that's holding you back -- and Hendricks' opinion is eve A friend gave me this book as a gift because she knows I am stuck in a creative and business rut which for me is one and the same thing and was certain it would help me.
To do that, you have to learn to conquer the fear that's holding you back -- and Hendricks' opinion is everyone has at least one fear. For me, my fears are fairly personal and I'll more than likely go into more detail in blog posts on my blog. But I CAN tell you now that I marked up the book with a pencil, pulled out my perpetual calendar and started marking things down.
I've already made a vow to stop looking at blogs and beading magazines that make me feel inferior, and by marking only a few things a day on my calendar, things seem doable. I've also decided what I'm good at more on that on the blog later and what I need to say goodbye to. After I turn in my book manuscript December 6th -- things are going to change.